“My son was playing in and around a small kiddie pool on a summer day with a friend. They had already made up a couple of games involving toy dinosaurs and helicopters and were struggling to work out some rules for the next game. That’s when my son hopped up and announced, “Let’s just joy out!” Then they both ran and jumped in the pool, letting go of all the rules and games and simply enjoying the sunny day. It was such a delight for his mother and me to witness them looking so free, so joyful in their play. We took our learning that day, and it’s become a family phrase. When things seem complicated, we remember to ‘joy out.’ It is the reset button and reality check to which we can return again and again. When we do, I imagine that God delights in witnessing that and perhaps thinks, ‘Finally! They remembered to joy out!’”
“Joy out!” I love this idea. So often we can turn what God meant for good, including the 10 commandments, into something that becomes less than life-giving. The Christian life is not meant to be drudgery. It’s meant to be filled with joy. How often is it that we impose all sorts of rules upon ourselves and others and drain the joy out of our relationships and life itself.
Derkit’s story reminds me of playing a game with my 5 year old granddaughter. She creates these games with all these rules and then gets quite demanding when I don’t do something according to the rules. I even find myself from time to time deliberately breaking one of her rules, just out of orneriness. But after a while to be honest the rules-even a 5 year old’s rules-begin to see seem kind of draining.
But at other times, what joy, when she just plays. She sings and chatters and dances and invites us into her joy. I imagine that just as I find joy in her in these moments, so too, does God find joy in us, when we remember, that a life in Christ is not about the rules—as if we somehow still have to earn our salvation by keeping the rules—rather, it’s about a relationship with Jesus—it’s about learning to live in God’s presence—and finding joy in all that God has done and provided for us.